Breathe Deeply; Thoroughly Enjoy This Holiday With Your Teen Still at Home

This article was originally published here on December 21st, 2015. It was updated and republished here on December 14th, 2017. 

Mom, Dad, I know that your holidays are busy.

You’re working frantically to get all the shopping, cooking, and decorating done so that all the holiday magic will appear to flow effortlessly at your house.

I know it’s a lot — especially in addition to everything else you do for your family — but let me tell you how much your efforts mean for a teen who’s just a few years from launching out of your safe warm nest.


In a turbulent, frightening world, the traditions you’ve developed over the years and the memories your family has built together will provide warmth and stability that your teen will hang onto and draw comfort from in many of his or her scary, uncertain, transitional seasons of life.

Even if this season is more of a struggle than a joy for your family, this still applies. As @JenHatmaker said on Twitter: “One kid is crying. Two are fighting. #decoratingtheChristmastree.” Everyone is having crazy, imperfect holidays — don’t worry. Everything you’re doing is still helping.

Thank you for all you’re doing. It matters more than you realize.

And whether you call them “holidays” or “holy days,” I’m hoping yours are filled with meaning and purpose and scattered moments of true awe and joy.


P.S. If you have college students coming home for the holidays, here are some links to past articles from me that you’ll find very helpful this month!

“Let’s Talk Now About What Life Will Look Like When You Come Home on College Breaks.”

One Sentence That’ll Keep Your Kids From Living At Home in Their 20s

This Meg Jay book is a must-read for every 17 – 29-year-old

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Remember, there’s no part of parenting more important than setting your kid up for successful college and career life.

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What about you? 

What holiday traditions have you cultivated at your house over the years? How are you maintaining or modifying those traditions now that you have teens launching in the next few years? Did you find any of the recommended articles to be especially helpful? Comment below or LIKE Jeannie Burlowski Author on Facebook, find this post on that page, and let’s talk about it there.

Who is Jeannie Burlowski? 

Jeannie is a full-time author, academic strategist, and speaker. Her writing and speaking help parents set their kids up to graduate college debt-free and move directly into careers they excel at and love. Her work has been featured in publications such as The Huffington Post, USA Today, NerdWallet, and US News and World Report.

Jeannie also helps students apply to law, medical, business, and grad school at her website You can follow her on Twitter @JBurlowski.