One Sentence That’ll Keep Your Kids From Living At Home in Their 20s

Parents, I know you’ve heard the horror stories.

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You’ve heard of loving mothers and fathers who sacrifice for years only to find themselves in their 50s, stressed and anxious over unkempt twenty-something children still living in their childhood bedrooms, sleeping in past noon, lounging afternoons away on parents’ couches, helping themselves to food from their parents’ refrigerators, and then staying up long hours into each night gazing into the flickering blue screens of online video games? 

You know that there are hundreds of thousands of parents living this nightmare every day, right?

What are you going to do to avoid becoming that parent?

The fact is this. Parent, you stand a much better chance of achieving your goal of independence for your adult child if, as early as possible, you start clearly articulating this truth concerning the living situation for any high school graduate living in your house:

“Honey, we will be happy to provide free room and board to you after your high school graduation, as long as you’re enrolled in (and making successful progress through) a full-time academic or job-training program.”

Want more help from me on this subject?

Read my emphatic post recommending the must-read Meg Jay book The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter–And How to Make the Most of Them Now. You’ll find it here.

You can help set your kid up for successful college and career life.

For parents of kids 18 and up, read chapter 13 in this book:

If you have younger kids, you can get 10-minute, fast-paced video instruction on how to use this book most efficiently at bit.ly/easylaunchinstructions.

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(Tell your friends.)

You can see why financial advising professionals love LAUNCHhere.

You can see the top 9 questions parents are asking me about LAUNCHhere.

Read just one chapter of LAUNCH every 1–3 months while your child’s in middle school and high school, and you’ll know every viable strategy for debt-free college at exactly the right time to implement it.

And if your child’s already well past middle school? That’s OK; you can run to catch up. But the process of getting your kids through college debt-free goes more smoothly the earlier you start it—especially if you’re not planning to save up any money to pay for college.

Do you have specific questions for me about debt-free college and career for your kids?

It’s my members that get most direct access to me. Doors to my membership open each year for just 5 days in March, and 5 days in September. Space is limited. Join the Waiting List here.

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What about you?

What strategies have you found for making kids feel excited to leave the nest and start out on a healthy, independent adult life? Comment below or LIKE Jeannie Burlowski Author on Facebook, find this post on that page, and let’s talk about it there.

Who is Jeannie Burlowski? 

Jeannie is a full-time academic strategist, podcast host, and sought-after speaker for students ages 12–26 and their parents and grandparents. Her writing, speaking, and podcasting help parents set their kids up to graduate college debt-free and move directly into careers they excel at and love. Her work has been featured in publications such as The Huffington Post, USA Today, Parents Magazineand US News and World Report, and on CBS News.

Jeannie also helps students apply to law, medical, business, and grad school at her website GetIntoMedSchool.com. You can follow her on Twitter @JBurlowski.

This article was originally posted on this blog on February 18th, 2015. It was updated on November 15th, 2020.