This article was originally written on June 5th, 2017. It was updated and reposted here on June 4th, 2018. I plan to repost it every June, right when school’s out and parents need it most. Here’s to a fun, relaxing summer for your whole family!
Carol kicked off her work shoes and put them away in the front hall closet. “Hi, kids; I’m home!” She called out.
It’d been an extremely long work day for Carol, and the commute home had been long and sweaty due to heavy road construction and her car air conditioning being out. All she wanted to do was get her shoes off and collapse.
When she walked into the kitchen, though, she gasped.
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So, your 20-something daughter wants to live at home in her childhood bedroom. Should you happily say yes and make a plate of warm cookies to welcome her back?
Or could this put you (and your child) in a bad spot?
I’ve written in a previous post about the horror of loving mothers and fathers who sacrifice for years only to find themselves in their 50’s, stressed and anxious over unkempt twenty-something children still living in their childhood bedrooms. Many of these parents despair over dependent 20-somethings sleeping in past noon, lounging afternoons away on parents’ couches, helping themselves to food from their parents’ refrigerators, and then staying up long hours into each night gazing into the flickering blue screens of online video games.
You know that there are hundreds of thousands of parents living this nightmare every day, right?
What can you do to avoid becoming that parent?
1. Is your child enrolled in (and making successful progress through) a full-time academic program?
When your child is in elementary and middle school — or as soon as possible after that — start telling your children this important sentence: “Honey, we will be happy to provide free room and board to you after your high school graduation, as long as you’re enrolled in (and making successful progress through) a full-time academic or job-training program.”
2. If your child is still in high school, clearly lay out the plan for the summer after high school graduation.
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