A Kid You Care About Has ADHD or Behavior Problems?

This is a very long article—but if you love a child or teen with ADHD or behavior problems, you’re going to want to read the entire thing.

I did not write this. It’s an unedited, lengthy rant from a mother who has been in a situation very much like yours—and found life-changing answers. 

Is your child exhibiting signs of ADHD or behavior problems?

There’s a chance that it could be related to a sleep disorder.


I ran the following information by a medical doctor with ENT specialization, and she told me, “Yes—what is described in this article absolutely does merit specialized medical attention.”

This mother’s rant—unedited and in her own words—is below.

She writes:

“Parents, prepare yourself for some all caps yelling, because this is going to change lives. All parents. If you have a child, I’m going to tell you something you need to know that you have probably never heard. And please share this. There is a huge red flag in the picture I am sharing with this story. Do you see it?

CHILDREN SHOULD NOT BREATHE THROUGH THEIR MOUTHS. Not while awake, not while asleep. Never.

If your child:

falls asleep immediately after their head hits the pillow,
grinds their teeth,
wakes up in the night,
has night time accidents or daytime accidents,
has impulse control issues,
is hard to understand when speaking,
has under eye circles,
has crooked teeth or a misaligned bite,
wakes up insanely early,
is irritable during the day,

has a bad appetite,

listen up.

Let me back it up to last year:

My son, Kian, now age 8, determined, intelligent, feisty, and extremely active. He started school, no problems in Kindergarten.

First grade rolled around, and we started getting behavior reports. “Kian pushed so and so” “Kian is having a hard time controlling his body.” Parent teacher conferences, new reward system in place, and it seems to improve. But at home it did anything but. When Kian gets angry, he gets ANGRY. He gets fixated on little things (there is a hair in the shower, it’s gross! I can’t shower in there! *melt down commences*), his fuse gets shorter and shorter, and he’s a picky eater who barely eats.

Second grade rolls around, and oh boy. While other kids are outgrowing their tantrums, Kian’s intensify and turn into daily spectacles, triggered by the smallest thing. The behavior reports from school start rolling in. “Kian is pushing” “Kian can’t control his impulses” “Kian is having a hard time staying in his seat” and it going on and on. Almost daily. And I’m mortified. Every morning it’s tantrum after tantrum, before we even get out of bed. Hitting, and throwing things, and the screaming. All the screaming. Starting at 5AM every morning. We were at a loss—how did he become this way, what could be have done different?

Kian starts seeing a therapist, recommended by his pediatrician. The therapist starts working with him, and eventually recommends ADHD testing. Meanwhile, in the background, Kian has a persistent cough that just won’t go away, so we are also seeing a pulmonologist, and, against the advise of the pulmonologist, an allergist. This will become relevant in a moment. Each doctor is recommending more and more medications—2 inhalers for the cough, an antibiotic (4 different rounds) for the postnasal drip, a steroid, and it goes on and on. The therapist is dancing around ADHD, pushing us in that direction. At a cleaning, Kian’s dentist makes an offhand comment about his teeth—they were ground almost half way down, he’s grinding his teeth at night.

And then lightening struck, right at the perfect time. I stumbled upon an article that changed our life. The article, I’ve included at the bottom of the post, was about the connection between ADHD, sleep disordered breathing, and mouth breathing. Every word in this article sounded like Kian. This led me down a rabbit hole of research (the majority of which was done right in our back yard at the National Institute of Health) where I learned the following:

Mouth breathing is NOT NORMAL and has long term consequences for health.

I’ll repeat, because this is important—MOUTH BREATHING IS NOT NORMAL, NOT DURING THE DAY OR AT NIGHT.

—When a child breathes through their mouth, their brain (and body) is not getting enough oxygen. At night, this lowered oxygen saturation is detrimental to the quality of sleep and their brain’s ability to get enough rest.

—When the mouth is open, the tongue cannot rest in the correct place. Over time this can lead to incorrect development of the upper jaw—narrow and high palette, a recessed lower jaw (over jet and overbite can form), speech problems (r/l mispronunciation) and misaligned teeth. These developments narrow the airways and worsen the problem. Medical professionals have a term for the resulting ‘long’ face caused by these changes—’Adenoid face.’

—When sleeping, in addition to the decreased oxygen, the recessed jaw can cut off the airway completely and contribute to sleep apnea in children. To compensate, the body wakes the child and pushes the jaw forward, resulting in disrupted sleep cycles and tooth grinding (bruxism).

Here’s the kicker:

Sleep deprivation in children and ADHD exhibit the same symptoms.


Studies have been done (thanks, NIH) where they took medicated ADHD kids, fixed the sleep disordered breathing, and within 6 months 70% of the children had seen a resolution in symptoms and were no longer medicated. As in, their ‘ADHD’ was cured. Because it wasn’t ADHD. In 70% of children. Let that sink in. This means that 70% of those children had been misdiagnosed with ADHD, when they actually had a treatable sleep disorder.

Stimulants—Of course they work, until they don’t.

If you are sleep deprived, taking a stimulant will of course help you focus and feel ‘normal.’ But the brain is never fully resting—and hence the side effects that pop up:

sleep problems (insomnia),
stomach pain,
loss of appetite,
weight loss,
suicidal ideation

Imagine yourself with, let’s say, three days of sleep deprivation.

How multiply that times 100. Now throw a stimulant in the mix. How do you think you’ll feel once you start coming down from that?

The list goes on and on (I have copied some of the research links below).

Our story has a happy ending.

After a visit to an ENT and a sleep study he was diagnosed with sleep apnea and sinusitis. He got exactly 0 minutes of REM sleep during the first study, and oxygen saturation in the low 80%, and his sinuses were 90% blocked. We had no idea that Kian had a headache daily, but it was just his normal so he never thought to tell us. Kian had his tonsils and adenoids removed and the change was immediate. He could breathe through his nose as he came out of surgery, where he couldn’t when they wheeled him in.

We have seen a complete 180 in behavior.

No more angry tantrums, no more fixation on little OCD things, it’s been an enormous change. And we haven’t even finished the second step—fixing his jaw and tongue issues that developed during the course of undiagnosed sleep apnea.

Our follow-up sleep study?

It showed 360 minutes of REM sleep, and oxygen saturation above the minimum threshold. No behavior reports in school. His appetite has exploded, he’s no longer a picky eater, and he had a huge growth spurt 2 weeks after the surgery. He still has mild sleep apnea, but the frequency in the night was cut in half, and the duration of each episode was cut in half. If we see this much of a change now, I can only imagine how much it will improve once we cross the finish line.

Here’s why I am sharing this.

No one, in my 12 years of parenting, ever told me any of this. All the signs were there, right in front of our eyes, and I had no clue. Kian’s pediatrician, who we loved and trusted, never said a word. The therapist had no clue, the pulmonologist, the allergist, even the ENT and sleep doctor didn’t believe me when I insisted he be seen for this invisible health issue. Not during any of our regular appointments, or during any of our sick child appointments. And not until we have tangible proof with sleep study results and sinus imaging did anyone believe.

I had to find this, diagnose this, and push for treatment myself.

And thank God I did.

If any of this is raising red flags in your mind, if this sounds like your child, if your child has been diagnosed with ADHD, please see an ENT and get a sleep study. It may just change your life.

Please share this, you may help someone—I wish I had learned this information years ago!

If you’re wondering, ‘This is my kid! This sounds like me! Can this be an issue for adults? Can you diagnose me?’ please know that I cannot diagnose you. See a doctor. This is the entire point of this post—see a doctor! See an ENT (check with your insurance, I didn’t need a referral and booked an appointment directly), schedule a consultation with a sleep doctor (also was able to book directly, check your insurance). See a professional. For the love of all that is good, I cannot fix your medical issues, please see a doctor!”

The article mentioned above:


And if you want the research behind it, this is the tip of the iceberg (there is more):


















Hi—this is Jeannie Burlowski again.

This story has been provided for public sharing by Melody Yazdani, 34, of Vienna, Virginia. It originally appeared here.

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