From the time students are in middle school, they’re told the big lie. That colleges and grad schools are looking for students who are “well-rounded.”
“Don’t commit too deeply to any one thing,” well-meaning parents and college counselors tell students. “Instead, do a lot of different things. Do as many as you can! Cram your schedule full to bursting! Exhaust yourself! Colleges and grad schools will like how ‘well-rounded’ you are.”
Here are 5 reasons why the “well-rounded” myth makes no sense.
1. Millions of students fall into the “well-rounded” category. It’s nothing special.
Does any thinking person really believe that colleges and grad schools are struggling to find enough insanely busy, perennially exhausted students who run themselves ragged for four years doing a little bit of everything?
Do you have any idea how many students in the United States fall into this category?
Hyper-busy, exhausted kids, desperately packing their résumés with hundreds of activities they don’t care about, in futile attempts to impress people they’re never going to actually meet?
U.S. colleges and universities can pack their freshman classes a hundred times over with students like these. Exhausted, overcommitted students are ordinary. They’re unremarkable. They’re run-of-the-mill. Their college applications are yawners. Here’s the truth: it’s the student who’s taken at least one thing and gone after it with depth and passion and commitment who’s going to stand out from the crowd like a superstar and impress everyone.
2. T-shaped makes far more sense.
The “T-shaped’ student tries different things with the goal of finding one area of highly interested focus.
Once she has it, she dives deeply into that area of focus (academically and in outside-of-school activities) over a period of years.
Read what author Jeffrey J. Selinga says about this subject in this Washington Post article. “The problem with well-rounded students,” Selinga says, “is that they usually don’t focus on any one thing for a prolonged period of time. Too often they seem to participate in activities just to check off a series of boxes, instead of showing the deep and sustained involvement…and dedication that employers seek. Their résumés are filled with what some recruiters refer to as ‘sign-up clubs.'”
Selinga is talking about college students, but the idea applies to high school students as well.
3. The crossbar on the “T” is key.
The crossbar on the “T” comes when your daughter works at gaining breadth across a variety of academic disciplines.
If she loves the idea of computer programming, for instance, imagine her digging deep into that subject and learning as much as she can about it both in and out of school. Then imagine her adding to her programming education additional college coursework in subjects such as math, law, psychology, and finance. There are many, many jobs that could use this combination of deep skill and academic breadth. Working for a company that detects credit card fraud is just one that comes to mind.
4. Remember, exhaustion and burnout are not the route to future career success.
You can see the article I’ve written on this subject here.
Exhausted students who’ve been run ragged in every club, extracurricular activity, and sport can build up layers of anxiety, causing problems with both future college admissions and applying for and getting jobs after college.
5. Easing up is OK. Really.
Don’t believe me? Read this New York Times article where even the Harvard admissions office laments that the students it’s seeing “seem like dazed survivors of some bewildering lifelong boot camp.” Ease up. Please.
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Who is Jeannie Burlowski?
Jeannie is a full-time academic strategist, author, speaker, and podcast host. Her writing, speaking, and podcasting help parents set their kids up to graduate college debt-free and move directly into careers they excel at and love. Her work has been featured in publications such as The Huffington Post, USA Today, NerdWallet, and US News and World Report.