Forget Being Supermom—Just be “Good-Enough Mom.”

Psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud, co-author of the life-changing Boundaries books and The Mom Factor, says that today’s moms will do more good for their families by giving up “the Supermom model of motherhood, which never worked anyway,” and instead relaxing into being a “good-enough mom.”

Why would a psychologist suggest that just being a “good-enough mom” is a healthy idea?

good enough mom

“Perfectionistic mothers,” Cloud says, “tend to either go crazy or make their spouse, their kids, or their kids’ spouses crazy. Stop trying to be the perfect mom, and be content with being a ‘good-enough’ mom.”

What is a “good-enough mom”?

According to Cloud, the “good-enough mom” (the one who’s most likely to raise healthy kids and teens) has these characteristics:

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Secret Weapon for Multiple Choice Tests

Which of these multiple choice testing strategies have you never heard of before? That’s your new secret weapon.

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1. Before you start, note the structure of the test and plan your timing.

Here’s a nightmare you want to avoid. You turn to the final page of a test with two minutes left on the clock, only to find that the last question is a long-form essay question worth half the test points—and you’ve got zero time to write it.

If you know what’s coming, you can plan your time accordingly.

2. Read the question stem twice, then try to think of the answer yourself—without peeking at the choices.

The “stem” means the question itself, not including the answer choices.

Reading the question stem twice will help ensure that you won’t get answers wrong due to easily avoidable reading errors. And thinking up the correct answer in your head on your own—when possible—will help you instantly recognize the right answer when you see it.

3. Always read all the multiple choice answer choices.

Yes, the correct answer might jump right out at you, but carefully read the other choices as well. Sometimes you’ll realize that your original prediction actually needs to be reconsidered.

4. Don’t assume that the most familiar sounding answer choice is the right one.

Sometimes, the familiar sounding choice was planted there specifically to distract you from the right answer. When you’re choosing a correct answer, quietly ask yourself for some logical reasons why that answer is probably right.

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How to Get a Teen to Read a Non-Fiction Book

In a world where kids seem perpetually tied to their phones, how can you get a teen to read a non-fiction book?

In some homes, families are starting up a revolutionary new family tradition.

In a world where kids seem perpetually tied to their phones, how can you get a teen to read a non-fiction book? In some homes, families are starting up a revolutionary new family tradition. It takes just one hour. See if this strategy might work at your house.

They’re giving each family member an actual, physical book as a gift, and then setting aside a one-hour period of time on the holiday where everyone (adults and kids alike) untethers from electronics, sits down together, and reads. Just one quiet hour .

“An hour of reading? My kids won’t want to do that.”

Your kids might groan at this idea at first, but if you give them a couple of weeks notice that this will be happening, (and pay them to comply if necessary), you may find them actually enjoying it.

And if your child has a diagnosed attention disability? You could allow his or her reading time to be just 15 minutes on the first day you start this.

When the reading hour is over, say, “That was fun. Now—who wants some cookies?”

The conversations you have over this particular cookie tray might be some of the most fascinating ones you have all day. All you’ll have to do is ask, “What’s the most interesting thing in your book so far?”

Remember—during the reading hour, you’re planting seeds.

You’re providing space and opportunity for the people you love to be pulled into their book, to be captivated by it, and to develop thirst to read the rest later. It’s one of the best ways to get a teen to read a non-fiction book.

Wondering what books to get for the people you love?

Take a look at this list of 9 books I most love for students and parents.

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Top 9 Books I Most Love For Parents and Students

Books make great gifts. Why? Because a carefully chosen book can literally change a life. In this short article I share the top 9 books I most love for parents, 20-somethings, and students ages 12 and up.

(Are you worried that your teen won’t read a non-fiction book? See my helpful article on How to Get a Teen to Read a Non-Fiction Book.)

Books make great gifts. Why? Because a carefully chosen book can actually change a life. In this short article I share the top 9 books I most love for parents, 20somethings, and students ages 12 and up.

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Starting a New Job? 3 Important Items To Bring the First Day

Your daughter is starting her first real job after college. Or maybe it’s you, the parent, starting a new job. No matter the age of a new full-time employee, bringing these three things on the first day of a new job makes a strong positive impression, and sets an employee up for maximum future success.

new job

1. Bring a clean, blank notebook and a pen to the first day of a new job.

You’re going to be learning a lot the first day, week, and month, right?

Pull out your notebook and take notes on what you’re learning. Write down passwords and assigned tasks, and note the names and titles of people you meet so that you can greet them by name when you see them, and later, connect to them on LinkedIN.

In the back of the notebook, make a list of tasks and projects you see at your new job that you might be able to take on at some point. There’ll be many times in the future when you’ll be able to say to those who supervise you, “I noticed that this needs to be done. How about if I take that on?”

When the first day of your new job is behind you, continue to take notes on what you’re learning each day, always including the day’s date at the top of each page. Review your notes each night. You’ll be viewed as a careful person who can be trusted with details—because you’ll actually be a careful person who can be trusted with details.

“Can’t I just enter the things I need to know about my new job into my phone?”

No, don’t do that.

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The Meme Every Kid Needs to See

Here it is—the meme every kid needs to see.

the meme every kid needs to see

Copy and forward this meme to the kids you love right now.

Tweet this meme out to the people who follow you!

When you’re a parent, it feels great to know you’re taking practical steps to set your kid up for successful college and career life.

For clear, step-by-step help getting your kids through college debt-free, get your copy of my book:

You can “Look Inside” the book on Amazon for free by going to:

bit.ly/burlowski

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Should You Fill Out the FAFSA on Your Phone?

Should you fill out the FAFSA on your phone?

On October 17th, 2018, I was invited to guest post on the blog of Certified Financial Planner™ Mike Branch of Focus Financial in Minneapolis. Mike has been an extraordinary mentor to me as I’ve plumbed the depths on how to get kids through college debt-free. You can find Mike at Focus Financial in Minneapolis, on the Approved Consultants tab on this website, or at one of the many FAFSA info sessions he presents in high school auditoriums each year. 

The guest post I wrote for Mike is below.

Are you parenting a student of any age who’ll be in college next fall? If so, one of your most important tasks this year will be to fill out the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) as soon after October 1st as possible. This applies to every student and every parent—no exceptions.

Are you convinced that for you, filling out the FAFSA will be a waste of time—because you make far too much money to qualify for any college aid? Check out this article on 7 Reasons to Fill Out FAFSA Even if You’re Rich.

And then get out your smartphone.

As of October 1st, 2018, you can fill out the FAFSA on your phone.

For years, students and parents filling out the FAFSA were required to complete the form using desktop computers. In 2018, though, a new, mobile-friendly version of FAFSA was released.

Here, 8 things you’ll need to know before you fill out the FAFSA on your phone.

1. It’s a little easier to avoid overwhelm when you fill out the FAFSA on your phone, because you see only one question per screen.

2. Families can start filling out the form on one device, and finish it on another.

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Get Your Kid Through College Debt-Free—WITHOUT SCHOLARSHIPS!

debt free college

This session is for parents, and for students ages 12–26.

Why would you want to prep for college or technical school the same old way everyone else does? That’s the surest route to mediocrity! In this jam-packed evening info session, author Jeannie Burlowski will explain:

* 7 things parents can do right now to put their kids on the fast track to getting through college debt-free

* How kids as young as age 15 can get an exciting, liberating sense of career goal early on, and then sign up for only the amount of college absolutely necessary to accomplish that

* How kids as young as age 12 can get a massive head start on racking up the 10,000 hours it takes to be viewed as an expert in a career field

* Why deeply inspired caring—not the fancy name of the college you attend—is the key to fulfilled, satisfied career life in the long term.

This 2-hour session will be presented live by Jeannie Burlowski, author of the book LAUNCH: How to Get Your Kids Through College Debt-Free and Into Jobs They Love AfterwardA live Q & A will be offered at the end.

To register, click here.

To see what other parents and students are saying about this session, view a short sample video, and hear Jeannie Burlowski interviewed on a national podcast, visit:

JeannieBurlowski.com/SPEAKING.

Tell your Facebook friends about this event! Post this link: 

bit.ly/debtfreecollegeATTLEBORO.

Be sure to ALSO attend Jeannie’s second class on Saturday morning, November 3rd, in West Greenwich, Rhode Island.

The Saturday morning session will be completely different from the session described above. It is highly recommended that parents and students ages 12–26 attend both. Learn more about the Saturday session at this link:

bit.ly/scholarshipessaysWESTGREENWICH

Who is Jeannie Burlowski?

Jeannie is a full time author, academic strategist, and speaker. Her writing and speaking help parents set their kids up to graduate college debt-free and move directly into careers they excel at and love. Her work has been featured in publications such as The Huffington Post, USA Today, NerdWallet, and US News and World Report.

Jeannie also helps students apply to law, medical, business, and grad school at her website GetIntoMedSchool.com. You can follow her on Twitter @JBurlowski. She lives in Minneapolis.

This Thursday evening session is brought to you courtesy of Good Company Tutorials. Good Company Tutorials supports homeschooling in grades 5–12 with weekly classes.

FAQs

Will Jeannie’s sessions be offered in our area at any other time?

Yes. This session, How to Get Through College Debt-Free—WITHOUT SCHOLARSHIPS, will also be held at the Quidnessett Baptist Church Youth Center in North Kingstown, RI on Friday, November 2nd, 2018, at 2:00 pm. The ticket prices are the same, and the two event venues are only 35 minutes apart. The link to register for the session in North Kingstown, Rhode Island is here:

bit.ly/debtfreecollegeNORTHKINGSTOWN

Because Jeannie lives in Minneapolis, these will be the only two opportunities to hear this session in Massachusetts and Rhode Island in 2018.

Are there minimum age requirements to enter the event?

All ages are welcome to attend, but Jeannie’s sessions are most highly recommended for students ages 12–26 and their parents. It is highly recommended (but not required) that students ages 12–26 and both their parents attend together.

My kids are still in middle school. Isn’t it too early for us to be thinking about college?

No way. At this session, you’ll learn why parents who start thinking about debt-free college when kids are in middle school have a huge advantage over parents who wait. (This especially applies to parents who aren’t planning to save any money for college.)

We have 10 children. Do we all need tickets?

Each attendee needs a ticket. The first ticket purchased by your family is $29.00. Each additional attendee from your same immediate family pays only $10.00. It is highly recommended (but not required) that students ages 12–26 attend this session with both parents.

Foster children count as being from your same immediate family.

To register, click here.

We’d like to bring a friend of the family along. Can he or she get in for just $10.00 as one of our family members?

Since this friend is not a member of your immediate family, he or she would attend at the $29.00 ticket level.

How do we register for Jeannie Burlowski’s second, completely different Saturday event in West Greenwich, Rhode Island?

Everything you need to register for the completely different Saturday event can be found at this link:

bit.ly/scholarshipessaysWESTGREENWICH

We don’t homeschool. Are we still welcome to attend these sessions?

All are welcome. Jeannie Burlowski’s sessions are for all parents and students—public, private, and homeschooled.

What’s the refund policy?

Refunds are allowed up until 24 hours before the event.

Do I have to bring my printed ticket to the event?

It’s helpful if you can print it and bring it, but if you forget it, you can get in by showing picture ID.

Is my registration fee or ticket transferrable?

Yes. If you can’t use it, you may sell or give it to a friend.

Is it ok if the name on my ticket or registration doesn’t match the person who attends?

Yes. Completely OK.

Where else can I find Jeannie Burlowski appearing live November 1–3, 2018?

Find Jeannie at her Saturday BOOK SIGNING with Cookie Reception to Follow (FREE EVENT)

Louttit Library, 274 Victoria Highway, West Greenwich, RI 02817

Saturday, November 3rd, 2018

Book signing 2:00–3:00 pm | Cookie Reception 3:00–4:00 pm

Personally signed books make great holiday gifts.

How can I contact the organizer with my questions?

You may email your event questions to Jeannie@JeannieBurlowski.com.

Date: November 1, 2018
Time: 7:00-9:00 PM EDT
Event: Get Your Kid Through College Debt-Free—WITHOUT SCHOLARSHIPS!
Venue: New Covenant Christian Fellowship
Location: 609 North Main Street
Attleboro, MA 02703
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.

Want me to teach this class somewhere near you? When I travel to speak, I pay my own airfare. Who do you know who plans conferences and events? Visit JeannieBurlowski.com/SPEAKING to learn how to bring me to your state.

Get Your Kid Through College Debt-Free—WITHOUT SCHOLARSHIPS!

debt-free college

This session is for parents, and for students ages 12–26.

Why would you want to prep for college or technical school the same old way everyone else does? That’s the surest route to mediocrity! In this jam-packed afternoon info session, author Jeannie Burlowski will explain:

* 7 things parents can do right now to put their kids on the fast track to getting through college debt-free

* How kids as young as age 15 can get an exciting, liberating sense of career goal early on, and then sign up for only the amount of college absolutely necessary to accomplish that

* How kids as young as age 12 can get a massive head start on racking up the 10,000 hours it takes to be viewed as an expert in a career field

* Why deeply inspired caring—not the fancy name of the college you attend—is the key to fulfilled, satisfied career life in the long term.

This 2-hour session will be presented live by Jeannie Burlowski, author of the book LAUNCH: How to Get Your Kids Through College Debt-Free and Into Jobs They Love AfterwardA live Q & A will be offered at the end.

To register, click here.

To see what other parents and students are saying about this session, view a short sample video, and hear Jeannie Burlowski interviewed on a national podcast, visit:

JeannieBurlowski.com/SPEAKING.

Tell your Facebook friends about this event! Post this link: 

bit.ly/debtfreecollegeNORTHKINGSTOWN

Be sure to ALSO attend Jeannie’s second class on Saturday morning, November 3rd, in West Greenwich, Rhode Island.

The Saturday morning session will be completely different from the session described above. It is highly recommended that parents and students ages 12–26 attend both. Learn more about the Saturday session at this link:

bit.ly/scholarshipessaysWESTGREENWICH

Who is Jeannie Burlowski?

Jeannie is a full time author, academic strategist, and speaker. Her writing and speaking help parents set their kids up to graduate college debt-free and move directly into careers they excel at and love. Her work has been featured in publications such as The Huffington Post, USA Today, NerdWallet, and US News and World Report.

Jeannie also helps students apply to law, medical, business, and grad school at her website GetIntoMedSchool.com. You can follow her on Twitter @JBurlowski. She lives in Minneapolis.

This Friday afternoon session is brought to you courtesy of the Rhode Island Christian Homeschool Co-op (RICH). RICH is a group of homeschoolers who meet weekly to provide enrichment classes for children from 1st grade through high school. RICH members come from all parts of Rhode Island, Massachusetts, and Connecticut.

FAQs

Are there any special parking instructions for this event?

Yes. A limited number of parking spots are available next to the Quidnessett Baptist Church Youth Center. Overflow parking is available in the large lot next to the school building.

Will Jeannie’s sessions be offered in our area at any other time?

Yes. Get Your Kid Through College Debt-Free—WITHOUT SCHOLARSHIPS will also be presented in Attleboro, MA at 7:00 pm on November 1st, 2018. You and your friends can register for that session at this link:

bit.ly/debtfreecollegeATTLEBORO.

Are there minimum age requirements to enter the event?

All ages are welcome to attend, but Jeannie’s sessions are most highly recommended for students ages 12–26 and their parents. It is highly recommended (but not required) that students ages 12–26 and both their parents attend together.

My kids are still in middle school. Isn’t it too early for us to be thinking about college?

No way. At this session, you’ll learn why parents who start thinking about debt-free college when kids are in middle school have a huge advantage over parents who wait. (This especially applies to parents who aren’t planning to save any money for college.)

We have 10 children. Do we all need tickets?

Each attendee needs a ticket. The first ticket purchased by your family is $29.00. Each additional attendee from your same immediate family pays only $10.00. It is highly recommended (but not required) that students ages 12–26 attend this session with both parents.

Foster children count as being from your same immediate family.

To register, click here.

We’d like to bring a friend of the family along. Can he or she get in for just $10.00 as one of our family members?

Since this friend is not a member of your immediate family, he or she would attend at the $29.00 ticket level.

How do we register for Jeannie Burlowski’s second, completely different Saturday event in West Greenwich, Rhode Island?

Everything you need to register for the completely different Saturday event can be found at this link:

bit.ly/scholarshipessaysWESTGREENWICH

We don’t homeschool. Are we still welcome to attend these sessions?

All are welcome. Jeannie Burlowski’s sessions are for all parents and students—public, private, and homeschooled.

What’s the refund policy?

Refunds are allowed up until 24 hours before the event.

Do I have to bring my printed ticket to the event?

It’s helpful if you can print it and bring it, but if you forget it, you can get in by showing picture ID.

Is my registration fee or ticket transferrable?

Yes. If you can’t use it, you may sell or give it to a friend.

Is it ok if the name on my ticket or registration doesn’t match the person who attends?

Yes. Completely OK.

Where else can I find Jeannie Burlowski appearing live November 1–3, 2018?

Find Jeannie at her Saturday BOOK SIGNING with Cookie Reception to Follow (FREE EVENT)

Louttit Library, 274 Victoria Highway, West Greenwich, RI 02817

Saturday, November 3rd, 2018

Book signing 2:00–3:00 pm | Cookie Reception 3:00–4:00 pm

Personally signed books make great holiday gifts.

How can I contact the organizer with my questions?

You may email your event questions to Jeannie@JeannieBurlowski.com.

Date: November 2, 2018
Time: 2:00-4:00 pm EDT
Event: Get Your Kid Through College Debt-Free—WITHOUT SCHOLARSHIPS!
Venue: The Youth Center at Quidnessett Baptist Church
Location: 6356 Post Road
North Kingstown, RI 02852
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.

Want me to teach this class somewhere near you? When I travel to speak, I pay my own airfare. Who do you know who plans conferences and events? Visit JeannieBurlowski.com/SPEAKING to learn how to bring me to your state.

MAKE THEM SAY WOW: Write Brilliant Scholarship Application Essays

application essay

This session is for students ages 12–26, and their parents.

Imagine your child applying for 10 scholarships every single year, starting in 8th grade and going all the way through grad school. 80+ scholarships altogether.

Wow! That would be amazing! But who wants to write 80 scholarship application essays? Not your kid, that’s for sure.

Here’s the brilliant solution.

Your child writes one stunning scholarship application essay, and then modifies it and uses it over and over again to apply for 100 different scholarships. You make sure this is such a brilliant essay that it gets your kid money—even if he or she has lower grades and test scores.

This 3-hour class will teach you and your child exactly how to write such an essay. Together, you’ll learn to:

  1. Throw the old “introduction—body—conclusion” essay structure out the window. That’s an informative essay structure that doesn’t work for persuasion.
  2. Use the same principles of argument that lawyers use when arguing cases in court. (Be sure you know all three component parts of logical argument before you try this.)
  3. Use vividly written stories to capture attention and create powerful emotional pull. Begin to see potential in your child’s own life stories, the ones that in the past you only viewed as run-of-the-mill and ordinary.
  4. Equip yourself with a new, clever, multi-layered organizational structure that makes room for all of your child’s accomplishments without ever sounding scattered, disorganized, or disjointed.

Other students have called this class “amazing” and “revolutionary.” This class is also suitable for applicants to law, medical, business, and grad school.

This scholarship essay writing session will be presented live by Jeannie Burlowski, author of the book LAUNCH: How to Get Your Kids Through College Debt-Free and Into Jobs They Love Afterward

To see what other parents and students are saying about this session, view a short sample video, and hear Jeannie Burlowski interviewed on a national podcast, visit JeannieBurlowski.com/SPEAKING.

To learn more and to register, click here.

Wondering where you’ll find 100 scholarships to apply for? The instructor for this class provides 1.5 million of them for you at this link:

Bit.ly/2gbS0tu.

* Stay after this class for a “bring-your-own” lunch Q & A at the church that occupies the rear lower level of the Elks Lodge. This “bring-your-own” lunch event is sponsored by the Kent County Church of Christ and Deanna Chavez of the Rhode Island Hope chapter of the Institute for Cultural Communicators (ICC).

Tell your Facebook friends about this event! Post this link: 

bit.ly/scholarshipessaysWESTGREENWICH

Be sure to ALSO attend Jeannie’s completely different class, How to Get Kids Through College Debt-Free—WITHOUT SCHOLARSHIPS! (This completely different class will be offered November 1st in Attleboro, MA and November 2nd in North Kingstown, RI.)

Who is Jeannie Burlowski?

Jeannie is a full time author, academic strategist, and speaker. Her writing and speaking help parents set their kids up to graduate college debt-free and move directly into careers they excel at and love. Her work has been featured in publications such as The Huffington Post, USA Today, NerdWallet, and US News and World Report.

Jeannie also helps students apply to law, medical, business, and grad school at her website GetIntoMedSchool.com. You can follow her on Twitter @JBurlowski. She lives in Minneapolis.

This Saturday session is brought to you courtesy of Rhode Island Hope chapter of the Institute for Cultural Communicators (ICC). ICC helps homeschooling families develop ordinary students into extraordinary leaders.

FAQs

Will this session be offered in our area at any other time?

No. Jeannie is from Minneapolis, so this opportunity to hear her live in Massachusetts and Rhode Island is a rare one.

Are there minimum age requirements to enter the event?

All ages are welcome to attend, but Jeannie’s sessions are most highly recommended for students ages 12–26 and their parents. It is highly recommended (but not required) that students ages 12–26 and both their parents attend together.

My kids are still in middle school. Isn’t it too early for us to be thinking about college?

Did you know that students can start applying for college scholarships as early as 8th grade? Help your son or daughter to develop one amazing essay, and then watch him or her use it over and over again to apply for scholarships throughout middle school, high school, and college. 

We have 10 children. Do we all need tickets?

Each attendee needs a ticket. The first ticket purchased by your family is $59.00. Each additional attendee from your same immediate family pays only $25.00. It is highly recommended (but not required) that students ages 12–26 attend this session with both parents.

Foster children count as being from your same immediate family.

To register, click here.

We’d like to bring a friend of the family along. Can he or she get in for just $25.00 as one of our family members?

Since this friend is not a member of your immediate family, he or she would attend at the $59.00 ticket level.

We don’t homeschool. Are we still welcome to attend these sessions?

All are welcome. Jeannie Burlowski’s sessions are for all parents and students—public, private, and homeschooled.

What’s the refund policy?

Refunds are allowed up until 24 hours before the event.

Do I have to bring my printed ticket to the event?

It’s helpful if you can print it and bring it, but if you forget it, you can get in by showing picture ID.

Is my registration fee or ticket transferrable?

Yes. If you can’t use it, you may sell or give it to a friend.

Is it ok if the name on my ticket or registration doesn’t match the person who attends?

Yes. Completely OK.

Where else can I find Jeannie Burlowski appearing live November 1–3, 2018?

Find Jeannie at her Saturday BOOK SIGNING with Cookie Reception to Follow (FREE EVENT)

Louttit Library, 274 Victoria Highway, West Greenwich, RI 02817

Saturday, November 3rd, 2018

Book signing 2:00–3:00 pm | Cookie Reception 3:00–4:00 pm

Personally signed books make great holiday gifts.

How can I contact the organizer with my questions?

You may email your event questions to Jeannie@JeannieBurlowski.com.

Date: November 3, 2018
Time: 8:30-11:30 AM EDT
Event: MAKE THEM SAY WOW: Write Brilliant Scholarship Application Essays
Venue: Coventry-West Greenwich Elks Lodge
Location: RI No. 2285, 42 Nooseneck Hill Road
West Greenwich, RI 02817
USA
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.

Want me to teach this class somewhere near you? When I travel to speak, I pay my own airfare. Who do you know who plans conferences and events? Visit JeannieBurlowski.com/SPEAKING to learn how to bring me to your state.