The 5 Love Languages, Explained with Burritos

By this time nearly everyone’s heard of Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages. It’s sold over 11 million copies, it’s the 12th most popular book on Amazon (where it has more than 13,000 5-star reviews), and it’s been a New York Times Bestseller 8 years running.

Want a super fast explanation of The 5 Love Languages?

This funny explanation by @Alonzo_Creed has been retweeted 52,000 times on Twitter:

1. Words of Affirmation: “This is a good burrito.”

2. Acts of Service: “I made you a burrito.”

3. Receiving Gifts: “Here’s a burrito.”

4. Quality time: “Let’s go get some burritos together.”

5. Physical touch: Arms around a person wrapped in a warm hug, like a burrito.

Are you wondering which one or two of The 5 Love Languages your teen, spouse, or other loved one is most wired to receive? Use the quick free 5 Love Languages assessment that author Gary Chapman offers on his website. You might also love Gary’s other book: The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively.

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Dropping a Kid At College Feels Like a Train Wreck

You’ve just dropped a son or daughter off at college for the first time—or you’ll be doing so soon, Part of you knows you should be getting a lifetime achievement award for making it this far, but instead, dropping a kid at college may feel like a train wreck in your own front yard.

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Blunt and raw, here are my own feelings about dropping a kid at college.

My own oldest son headed off to college just days ago, and here’s what I said to my dear mom friends who are on the same railroad tracks as I am:

“It’s like riding a speeding freight train 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for 19 straight years. The train speeds up every year and goes faster and faster and faster AND FASTER until it becomes your life and your identity and your reality—and then SUDDENLY BAM! The train screeches to a halt and everyone you love flies off and runs away happy, and you’re left concussed and dazed and shell shocked and bruised by your seat belt—with only fragmentary memories of the journey.”

My friends laughed—and then they cried. They understood.

I love these words by Beverly Beckham on the subject of dropping a kid at college:

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Grisham NAILS IT in this Novel About Law School Debt

In March of 2018, I spent 12 days on vacation with my family. On the plane and on the beach, I read a fantastic John Grisham novel that contained a surprise for me that made my hair stand on end. What was it? The principal characters were all coping with horrific law school debt.

I’ve spent my entire professional life getting college students and grad students to careers they excel at and love with zero student loan debt. I spent years researching and writing a book on this subject. I can tell you, Grisham’s research on this topic is right on the money. He nails it.

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BEWARE. Law school debt has the potential to destroy your kid’s life.

I am not overstating this. Students who attend law school are at frightening risk of not being able to earn enough afterward to pay even the required minimums on their law school debt and interest. Law students from elite law schools who land the “big time” jobs will still struggle to pay—many times while working grueling 80+ hour workweeks that can feel more like indentured servitude than a great, fulfilling career.

Don’t fool yourself. It’s possible to get a great, fulfilling, high-paying professional career while avoiding law school.

Pages 133–151 of my book explains exactly how parents can use three career assessments to figure out what that great, fulfilling, well-paying career might be for their teen or 20something.

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My Best Debt-Free College Interview Yet

Listen On Your Drive to Work Today

To listen to my best debt-free college interview yet, click here.

Listen while you’re driving or getting ready in the morning, and you just might change the life of a student you love.

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In March of 2018 I was interviewed by Andy Earle, a Loyola Marymount University researcher who focuses on parent-teen communication and teen thriving and flourishing. I’ve been interviewed many times since my book LAUNCH came out in 2017, but this interview is by far the best. It’s the best produced, the most in-depth, the most inspiring, and the most informative.

To listen to the entire interview, click here.

You’ll feel a growing sense of hope for the teens and 20somethings you love.

I love what Andy Earle says about the debt-free college strategies I provide in LAUNCH.

After reading LAUNCH cover to cover, Andy says:

LAUNCH has become one of the most well-respected books on this subject (it’s the go-to reference book for financial planners and college consultants and coaches) because Jeannie isn’t just about doing college cheap, she’s about doing it debt-free and so effectively that it results in a great, satisfying career after college is over.”

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Oh, No — I’m MARRIED to Student Loan Debt

What to Know When Your "I do" Includes "I Do Intend to Pay."

If your spouse has student loan debt, what does that mean for you and for your financial future?

What can you do now that will keep you safe throughout the decades ahead, even if something bad happens?

Immediately address the biggest thing you must worry about when your spouse has student loan debt.

spouse has student loan debt

Think, for just a minute, of the unthinkable. What if your spouse dies, leaving you with a mountain of student loan debt that you have to pay off? Are you doomed? Or is there something you can do now to get out of paying thousands back all by yourself later?

To understand what your risks are and what you can do now to protect yourself and your family, be sure you’ve read the article I’ve written entitled “What Happens to Student Loan Debt When You Die?

Take all the safe, legal steps you can to free yourself from your spouse’s student loan debt now.

You don’t have to get a divorce in order to accomplish this. Just do the following six things as soon as you can:

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The 5 Essential Elements of Wellbeing

In their book Wellbeing, authors Tom Rath and Jim Harter outline what they call “the five essential elements of wellbeing.”

Wellbeing

Think about your kids as you read this list:

Physical Wellbeing

Social Wellbeing

Community Wellbeing

Financial Wellbeing

Career Wellbeing 

I think it’s fascinating to look at what happens in the spaces where two or more elements of wellbeing overlap. There’s great joy, for instance, in having a career—however humble—that gives you financial stability enough that you can give money away to help others who need help with their physical wellbeing.

And for teens and 20somethings, even if they temporarily have very limited money and zero career stability, they can still increase wellbeing by partnering with others around them (social) to do projects that help others (community).

According to Gallup research, this can actually be a faster route to happiness than going to an Ivy League university! (See the article I’ve written on this subject here.)

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Why and How to Stop Multitasking

Reclaim Your Productivity; Increase Enjoyment of Your Time Off

On the surface, it seems as though multitasking would make a great productivity tool. After all, if you can book a plane ticket and quickly shoot off an email while you’re on a phone meeting at work, why not? Haven’t you just masterfully killed two birds with one stone? Shouldn’t you be congratulated for being a brilliant time manager?

Research says no.

multitasking

Multitasking will drop your I.Q. faster than smoking pot.

One study showed that workers distracted by incoming email and text messages saw a whopping 10-point drop in their I.Q.s.

What’s the effect of a 10-point drop in I.Q.? It’s the same as losing an entire night’s sleep, and more than twice the effect of smoking marijuana.

Multitasking slashes your productivity by as much as 40%. 

We delude and fool ourselves into believing that we’re getting more done by multitasking. In reality, a day of multitasking results in less accomplishment, less productivity, and at the end of the day, something perhaps worse than mere low productivity.

Multitasking skyrockets feelings of stress and anxiety, eating away at the enjoyment of free time.

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4 Amazingly Easy Steps To Get Out Of Debt

If you as a parent are out of debt by the day your kid starts college, you’ll have more cash on hand to help with college bills. If you start the process of getting out of debt years before your kid starts college, you’ll have more cash on hand to save for college.

Either way, you’ll dramatically increase the chances that your child will graduate from college and begin adult life debt-free.

Today I’m featuring four amazingly easy steps to get out of debt, from best-selling author Dave Ramsey. These steps to get out of debt are so easy, you can fit them on a post-it note.

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What does it look like to follow Jesus in the modern workplace?

Whether you’re a public school teacher, a student, a surgeon, a retiree, or “a cog in a corporate machine,” you may have wondered at times, “Is there any way for my faith to empower and transform my regular, day-to-day Monday-Friday life?”

“Could the power of God at work inside of me… actually make me better at the day-to-day secular work I do?”

REFRAME is a 10-week video and discussion course that equips men and women of all ages to tap into faith to empower the work they do every day.

WHAT IS THE COST FOR REFRAME?

The 10-week REFRAME course fee is $30 for all 10 sessions. You buy just one $30 ticket, and you get access to a full 10-session course! Come to as many or as few sessions as you like.

Want to try out just one REFRAME session and see how you like it? Register here, attend one time, and if you don’t want to attend the rest of the sessions, we’ll cheerfully refund your course fee.

WHERE WILL THE COURSE BE HELD?

REFRAME will be held at the beautiful Charleston Event Center, a colonial-style wedding and event mansion on the southwest corner of Interstate 35E and Highway 96 in White Bear Lake, Minnesota.

WHAT ARE THE CLASS DATES?

Tuesdays

January 9th – March 20th, 2018 (no class on March 6th)

HOW IS EACH REFRAME CLASS STRUCTURED?

6:00 pm – 6:30 pm: Optional social time

6:30 pm – 7:30 pm: Video teaching that includes the wisdom of more than two dozen prominent evangelical leaders plus real life stories of Christians like you who are trying to seek a more faithful and integrated life

7:30 – 8:30 pm: Facilitated discussion

***Part of the purpose of REFRAME is to help you to build friendship and community with people you may never get to meet if you just stay within the walls of your own home or church. So please — try to come for the social time on every night you possibly can.

WHO IS WELCOME?

Everyone is welcome, from all faith backgrounds and from no faith backgrounds.

You can tell if your child is old enough to attend by showing him or her the video trailer, above. If the response you hear is, “I want to go to that!” then your child is old enough to attend.

Childcare is not provided for this event.

CAN I BRING MY ENTIRE CHURCH SMALL GROUP TO REFRAME?

Yes. Individuals and groups are all welcome to attend. We have a large seating capacity, so invite as many people as you’d like to. Just ask each attendee to register separately.

If you’d like your small group to be seated together, please have one representative of your group arrive no later than 6:00 pm on the first night.

Feel free to share the link to the Eventbrite registration page in email and on social media.

Here’s a shortened link if you need one: bit.ly/2AHK2Tm

WHO IS SPONSORING THIS EVENT?

Jeannie Burlowski, author of the book LAUNCH: How to Get Your Kids Through College Debt-Free and Into Jobs They Love Afterward

Tim Larson, financial advisor for Thrivent Financial

Aaron Freer, Genesis East

The Charleston Event Center

Regent College

The Washington Institute for Faith, Vocation, and Culture

Date: January 9, 2018—March 20, 2018
Event: REFRAME: How Tapping Into Faith Empowers Secular Work (See 4-Min Video)
Venue: The Charleston Event Center
Location: 4525 White Bear Parkway
White Bear Lake, MN 55025
USA
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.

To contact Jeannie Burlowski about speaking at your event, visit JeannieBurlowski.com/SPEAKING

You’re 20? Here’s the Career Advice Nobody’s Telling You

Today I’m featuring a must-read article by Forbes contributor Jason Nazar on career advice for 20-year-olds. If you’re parenting a child age 16–29, read this article and pick one or two topics to discuss with your child this week.

And if your child is age 18–29? Share this article with him or her now. Don’t wait.

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