Parents of College Students, Time to Schedule a Celebratory Dinner!

Include These 6 Things in the Dessert Conversation

I post this article every year at this time, because every year there’s a whole new crop of college students heading off to college. Here’s to giving your child and your family the best four years possible!

Your son’s about to leave for college, and there are a thousand things you want to talk to him about before he goes.

This month, take him out for a special celebratory dinner — and include these 6 things in the dessert conversation. You’ll make the next four years much, much easier on your family and on him.

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1) “Let’s talk about how often you want us to call you while you’re away at college.”

Parent, you might want to say something like this: “We hear that a lot of college families schedule a specific once-a-week time for parents to call. How would Sundays at 1 pm work for you? We can always change the time later on if another time works out better.

Of course, you can call or text us any time. We’ll always be happy to hear from you.”

2) “Let’s talk about how often you’d like us to visit you at college.”

“We’ll come for special performances or games, of course – and then maybe one time a semester besides that to take you out to dinner? Tell us what would feel good to you.”

3) “Son, let’s talk about what life will look like when you come home on college breaks.”

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Looking for Scholarships? Here are 1.5 Million of Them.

A few months ago, a wonderful mother wrote me, asking how she could find scholarships for two kids who are both in college right now.

My reply to her might help your family too:

Mary,

I’m so glad your kids are going to be applying for scholarships while they’re in college. That’s a fantastic plan! My recommendation is that students apply for ten scholarships every year starting in 8th grade and going all the way through graduate school. 80 scholarships in total if possible!

Here are 5 great ways I can think of to find scholarships to apply for.

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What’s College Life Like on an Army ROTC Scholarship?

This article was originally posted here on August 15th, 2015. It was updated and reposted on March 22nd, 2018.

Military service isn’t for everyone.

But before you disregard the help that the U.S. military provides to college students, let’s look at a few details about it.

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How Divorced Parents Can Get More Financial Aid For College

This article was originally posted on this site on August 8th, 2016. It was updated and reposted here on January 10th, 2018.

Ben and Amy have been divorced for years. Finally, though, they’ve found something they both agree on: they want their teenage daughter, Sophie, to get through college as close to debt-free as possible—and directly into a job she loves afterward. Millions of other divorced parents feel the same way.

What’s the key to making that happen?

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Divorced parents can take 7 specific steps that can help their kids get through college debt-free.

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Students, Whatever You Do, DON’T “Follow Your Passion.”

This is one of the most important posts I've ever written.

follow your passionA girl recently contacted me on Twitter, asking me to explain to her how she could wrestle control of her 529 college savings plan away from her parents.

“They are unreliable and untrustworthy,” she told me.

“What!?” I thought. “Are they drug addicts or human traffickers? Are they embezzlers!? What’s going on?”

I invited the girl to direct message me on Twitter so I could get a fuller picture. I learned that her parents were against a rather harebrained idea she had to study what she vaguely described as “media” overseas — so they were refusing to fund it. (They are perfectly within their rights to do this.)

When I asked the girl why it was so important that she carry out this plan to study “media” overseas, she came out with this whopping piece of logic:

“It’s been my dream since forever to do so.”

My reply to her looked like this:

“I understand about dreams, but when it comes to college and career we need to get extremely practical. What you need is the shortest, fastest, least expensive route to get to a career that will support you financially. When you get to your career goal and you’re working and earning your own money, then you can get started on fulfilling your dreams. Then you can fall in love and travel the world and do whatever you want. College is not the time to fulfill your dreams. College is the time to get busy get practical get it done and get out. Can you tell me what your career goal is? What do you think you’ll be doing when you are finished with studying “media” overseas?”

Parents, tell your kids the truth: college is not actually about following passion and dreams.

College is about qualifying oneself to do a job that will earn money in the real world.

To read my emphatic words to students age 12 -24 (and to see an inspiring short Mike Rowe video on this subject) read on.

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