More Cheerful Chores * Fewer Screens * More Fun

5 Ways Parents Can Have a More Fun, More Relaxing Summer

I post this article on the use of screens during summer every June, right when school’s out and parents need it most. Here’s to a fun, relaxing summer for your whole family!

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Carol kicked off her work shoes and put them away in the front hall closet. “Hi, kids; I’m home!” She called out.

It’d been an extremely long work day for Carol, and the commute home had been long and sweaty due to heavy road construction and her car air conditioning being out. All she wanted to do was get her shoes off and collapse.

When she walked into the kitchen, though, she gasped.

The kitchen looked as though someone had dirtied every dish and pan and countertop, and then run out in a panic.

In the distance she could hear machine gun fire.

The machine gun fire was coming from the TV in her family room, where her teens lounged on leather furniture, still in the t-shirts and sweatpants they’d slept in the night before. One stared, unmoving, at a movie on TV, one sat engrossed in Netflix on an iPad with headphones; the oldest was hunting and shooting camouflage-clad villains in a warehouse on a computer screen in the corner.

“Have you guys been in here like this the entire day??” She asked.

Many parents today worry about kids’ screen use during summer vacation.

But what’s a parent to do? It takes too much energy to constantly suggest: “Why don’t you go outside for a while?” Parents already tired from work don’t want to start battles with teens who might become sullen, snarly, and disrespectful when asked to disconnect.

How can parents get teens to do more chores, spend less time on screens, and have more of the kind of summer fun that satisfies most deeply?

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YOU Can Raise Creative, Confident, Innovative Kids

 

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The last thing you want to do is raise a child who’s just a dull drone, pouring out memorized facts as though facts have the power to save the world. You want to raise a child who will be valued in a future workplace for being creative, confident, and innovative.

But how can you build creative, confident, innovative ability into your child (and yourself!) right now?

In this fascinating 8-minute video, former Yahoo! executive strategist and bestselling author Tim Sanders provides brilliant research-based insight into where creativity and innovation actually come from.  

Here’s how I believe you can make these principles of creativity and innovation come alive in your kids:

1. Let your kid know that genius isn’t necessary to accomplish great things.

Sanders says that it’s a myth that great innovations come from lone wolf inventors who have sudden “eureka moments” strike like lightening from the sky and change the world. “We want to be heroes,” Sanders says, “so that’s how we tell the story.” Actually, though, Sanders says, true genius creativity comes from another place altogether. It comes from collaboration.

2. Explain to your kid the tremendous value of collaboration.

It can be liberating to a 12 -22 year old to realize: “Hey, I don’t have to have all the answers! It’s OK if I have one piece of the puzzle and someone else has another piece of the puzzle. It’s even OK if 20 other people are also contributing pieces of the puzzle. We can work together, and in doing so accomplish something bigger than I could ever do on my own.”

As Sanders says: “Little ideas combine with other little ideas, and these improve into game-changing ideas.”

This realization – that it’s OK to have only one piece of the puzzle – helps kids to relax. It relieves pressure and anxiety that can actually stand in the way of creativity and innovation.

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What’s the One Key Difference Between Kids Who Excel at School and Kids Who Don’t?

You desperately want your children to excel at school, but cajoling and hovering and pushing them is just so exhausting.

Here’s fantastic help that will take you under two minutes to implement.

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Can a 20something Pay Off Debt By Living on 51% of Her Income?

Is it possible for a struggling 20-something to get completely out of debt (including student loan debt) using a one-year shopping ban and living on 51% of her income?

Today I’m featuring an outstanding article written by Laura Shin for Forbes.  As you read it, give special attention to the great quote below from Mr. Money Mustache, a blogger who retired at age 30.

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Great Opportunity to Get Career Direction For Your High Schooler!

Deadline to Register: November 5th

Imagine your high school age son up late at night, in his bedroom with his desk light burning, reading a book on software design or motivating employees or robotics engineering or building construction or funding service-oriented nonprofits — just because he’s fascinated and wants to learn more.

Imagine your 10th grade daughter getting genuinely excited about learning — because you’ve helped her to get a glimpse of what she, personally, might love to do for a career someday.

This can happen for your son or daughter, if you make a way for him or her to do career direction work early on.

Today I’m going to give you a way to get quality career direction help for your 15 – 24-year-old son or daughter right now, this fall.

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Want Higher Grades from Middle School and High School Students?

The Way to Inspire Them is Likely NOT What You Think

Your middle schooler or high schooler is underperforming — and it’s driving you crazy.

What’s a caring, involved parent to do?  You know how high the stakes are.  Is it your duty to strictly supervise and control homework so that your son or daughter gets higher grades and has a happier life ?

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One-Evening Online College Study Skills Class Coming March 2017

(7 Reasons Why Your MIDDLE SCHOOLER Should Take It!)

LIve class coming August 27th!

Something magical happens when a middle schooler takes a college study skills class.  I’ve seen it a thousand times.

Oh, I know that on the surface it would seem to make more sense to give kids college study skills training right before they’re actually going to need it . . . .

*   Right before starting a “dual enrollment” college class in high school

*   Right before moving into dorms freshman year

*   Right after a disastrous semester where the grades were C’s and D’s and a lot of tuition money was wasted

Those are all good times to take a college study skills class.  But 6th or 7th grade?  That’s absolutely magical.

 7  reasons why MIDDLE SCHOOL is the best time for your kid to take a college study skills class:

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Does Part-Time Work Damage College GPAs? The Answer Might Surprise You

Part 3 of a 3-Part Series

Your college-age daughter calls you, sobbing, at 10:00 pm.  She’s feeling overwhelmed by exams and paper deadlines, and she’s begging you to let her quit the part-time job she’s been working while taking her full load of college classes.

You want her to be happy, of course — plus you worry that the time she’s spending at her job might be bringing her grades down.

Do you tell her to go ahead and quit?  The answer below just might surprise you.

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Got a Kid Headed to College This Fall? Today, a Brilliant Strategy For Figuring Out Who are the BEST Professors on Campus

Part 2 of a 2-Part Series

A week ago I asked parents to imagine a 19-year-old girl walking into an enormous 10-story library, choosing four books at random, and then walking up to the checkout desk and paying $25,000 for the chance to check them out.

A week ago we talked about how this sounds unthinkable, yet this is the exact method many students use to choose college classes.

A huge number of you read about my better, more clever, more strategic, more cost-effective way to make these important decisions.  If you missed that post, you can find it here.

In today’s Part 2 follow-up post I’ll be talking about how to best use  “professor rating websites.”

To do this, I’m featuring an article by Elizabeth Hoyt, editor and contributing writer for Fastweb.com. Fastweb.com is a scholarship matching service that “matches details you provide about your life to an online database of 1.5 million scholarships, and then sends alerts about scholarships you might be a fit for straight to your email inbox.”  You can learn more about Fastweb at Fastweb.com.

Please share this post with everyone you know who has a kid registering for college classes this fall.

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