There’s one thing parents long for far more than straight A report cards.
Parents want kids to do their own homework in a quality manner without the parent needing to prod, nag, oversee, or push.
Want to increase the chances of having academically independent children and teens at your house? Ask each of your children these 5 questions.
First, be sure your teen has a calendar, planner, or special notebook for recording assignments and due dates. Second — keeping this particular student’s personality in mind — provide some individualized teaching on the subject of workflow process management.
1. “So, Sarah, when the teacher gives you a printed sheet with math problems on it and tells you it’s due Friday, what’s the one place where you always automatically put that sheet?”
2. “Then what’s your plan for remembering to get it done by Friday?”
3. “What method are you going to use to remember to get it out during homework time at home without anyone asking you about it?”
4. “What are you planning to do to be sure it gets back to school and back to this particular teacher on the right day without anyone reminding you?”
5. “Would you like to hear some ideas that other kids have tried for this?”
Help your teen to design a workflow process that is likely to work well for her as an individual. Whatever the plan, though, it should boil down to: 1) Listen carefully to everything the teacher says. 2) Write down all assignments and due dates in an assignment notebook or calendar. 3) Put worksheets and other not-yet-done paper assignments in one safe place where you know right where they are and (whether at home or at school) can always find them in under 10 seconds. 4) Look at your assignment notebook or calendar every day after school and make a plan for how you will get your upcoming assignments done on time. 5) Do the work neatly in a quality manner, always trying to give the teacher more than he or she expects. 6) Immediately put finished assignments back in the one certain safe place where they are sure to make it back to the teacher on the right day without your having to think about it.
Parent, think of yourself as a business consultant.
Help your child think through: “What worked last year, and what processes might be tweaked or changed for this year?”
Clearly emphasize this very important point.
Emphasize that success in school and in life really has little to do with brains or luck, and everything to do with organization, process management, and continuing to try hard every day. Nobody’s stuck forever with a certain finite amount of brainpower. Brains are changeable. They grow exponentially with every hard thing you tackle. What feels hard now will not feel hard a year from now.
During the school year, parent, do this.
Let your teen manage the process of listening in class, recording due dates in a calendar, storing assignments in one certain spot, planning when to do homework, handing assignments in on time, and remembering to study for tests. Do, however, quietly keep a careful eye on your child’s progress by using the online assignment tracking that the school provides and checking in with teachers. You’ll want to intervene (maybe with reduced amounts of TV and video games?) if your child’s effort in school takes a downward turn.
Even when intervening, however, resist the urge to micromanage, helicopter, or control.
Consider this strategy, used by one wise father when his son suddenly stopped putting forth effort in school. The dad kindly and empathetically suggested to the boy that it must be because he didn’t have enough time at home to do homework. “We all know you’re capable of doing well,” the dad said to his son in a thoughtful voice, “so this has got to be a not-enough-time issue.” The dad then told the son that he’d arranged the family schedule so that the boy could simply sit at a table with his schoolwork, books, and pencils for a hour each evening, and either “do homework or think about it.” Completely the boy’s choice. It worked a miracle for this family, and it’s a strategy I highly, highly recommend.
Students must learn to manage their own schoolwork well before they enter high school.
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Who is Jeannie Burlowski?
Jeannie is a full time author, academic consultant, and speaker. Her writing helps parents set their kids up to graduate college debt free and move directly into careers they excel at and love. She also helps students apply to medical school at her website GetIntoMedSchool.com. You can follow her on Twitter @JBurlowski.